As humans, we detest being ignored and unnoticed. The pain we experienced is even more when such act comes from the person dearest to our heart – our significant other. When they don’t reply our messages and leave our calls unreturned, it causes emotional pain and torture to us. It makes us wonder if they are playing with our heart. Does s/he take me for granted? Is s/he truly busy or am I simply being ignored? With such questions and torturing emotions resonating through our minds, it could make us develop feelings of resentment towards our partner, which could result in behaviors that won’t be enjoyable in our relationship with them.
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The first thing one ought to do is to know the facts. What time is your partner normally free? Do they have a special activity today that makes your calls unreplied or has it been constant in your relationship? Is not replying your messages a regular thing in your relationship?
If your partner suddenly stops replying messages unlike previous times, try this checklist –
*Has s/he started a new activity at work which you are not aware of?
*Has your partner’s workload become too burdened that there is no more sufficient time to reply messages?
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If so or something similar, try to communicate with your partner to know their current schedule. Tell them to let you know when it’s convenient to call. Make them see how important they are to you and how unanswered calls hurt you. Get the new schedule and call during periods your partner is free.
When your messages are not replied regularly
Now, this is a different ballgame entirely. A full article should be written on this but I will make the most important things available here. When your messages go unreplied and calls unreturned by your partner on a regular basis, it tends to cause feelings of resentment towards your partner. You could feel they do not value and regard you well enough. Sadly, some people don’t take this lightly and break up with their partners.
Here are three things to do
Talk to Your Partner
Communicate with your partner. Get your partner to talk to you. Ask why your messages go unreplied in a polite manner. Tell them how much their reply means to you and how you eagerly await it. While discussing, make sure it is not in a defensive manner, such as “You never reply my calls, why?” They might clam up and excuse themselves. Most often, the reply you get is “I’m busy” or “Your messages doesn’t contain any urgent thing and can be replied at any time”, although the latter is rare.
If you get the “I am busy” reply, Here’s the second thing to do…
Ask Your Partner About Their Schedule
Inquire what your partner’s schedule is, so that you can message or call at their free time. In fact, a little secret that might be essential is to fix a particular time with your partner for calling or texting. If your partner picks at 11:00 am, you are both gearing up to hear from each other at 10:30 am or 10:45 am. This makes replying your messages easier.
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If your partner reply is “Your messages doesn’t contain any urgent thing and can be replied at any time”…
Don’t feel bad or get upset and think you are not valued. Some people are time conscious and want to be productive every minute. Your partner might be one of such persons. Limit your calls and messages to only the important information your partner must know instantly. The little talks and the sweet nothings should be kept for when you two are together. This should enhance their response to your messages.
But if your partner gives an entirely different response from the above probable responses, what should you do?
Try out the method(s) proposed by your partner for communication. No matter what it takes, Ensure you guys are always communicating.
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Remember communication is key and should always be present in every relationship
Cheers to a more loving relationship!
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